Sleep Baby Sleep

Having a new baby and figuring out how to get baby to sleep is a large mystery to most parents.  With my first daughter I ended up getting into a pattern of breastfeeding her to sleep which was sweet for the first few months. There was a loving connection and it was warm and cozy.  But as the months went by, instead of my baby being able to go to sleep on her own I either had to breastfeed her or be there to witness her falling asleep.  I became the pacifier.  By about 8 months I was getting increasingly exasperated as there were some nights it took upwards of two hours to lull my baby to sleep.  And deep in the night, she figured out pretty quickly that if she cried LOUDLY I would come to her rescue and I’d be back in the rocking chair with her.

For years I have recommended the book “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child” by Marc Weissbluth, M.D. to the mothers that attend my Mom & Baby Yoga class.  I’m not sure who told me about the book but I am forever grateful as it was miraculous. We never read the whole book from cover to cover because after a few weeks the patterns started to change. The testimonials from parents who have had problems were comforting and the techniques worked for us.

After we started the new routine I do remember at one point my husband and I had to agree that in the middle of the night we were not going to immediately go comfort baby when she woke up crying. The first fews nights were difficult.  Five minutes of crying seemed like hours and it took everything in us to follow through with the advise given.  But after a few nights we heard the cries and then… she went back to sleep!  A year or so later we had the twins and I found that there is even has a section on “twins”.

From having our first child in 2003, we made baby bedtime around 6.00-6.30pm and stuck to this until 2010.  Baths were done, teeth were being flossed and brushed and then story time.  We tried to be very were consistent each night.  Of course there were times when the kids were sick, we were traveling or we had something special going on but on the whole we stuck to the schedule.  Our girls still regularly get 10-11 hours of sleep a night.

One thing to remember is that we need to set up the patterns that we want our kids to follow.  If there is no routine, there is no routine.  Routines can be boring, dull and monotonous but children like them and will thrive if they know when things will happen and how they will happen.

Sleep well mom, dad and baby!

Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child

Here is the twins version of the book

Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Twins

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Que será, será

On every step of my journey into motherhood I have had to make decisions and choices. Sometimes I follow my heart, sometimes a book. I’ve even had experiences when a friend would casually mention, “I’m doing this with my baby now…” and I’d quickly do some research to find out if I should be doing that too!

The list is endless: disposable diaper, cloth diapers, bottle, no bottles, co-sleeping, crib sleeping, to carry or not to carry, what to feed, how to feed etc.

Through the years there have been people who have supported my choices, questioned them and in some cases said I was wrong. Whatever decisions I’ve made I have tried with my heart to trust and believe that I’m doing the best that I can.

The best advice I can give is to be flexible in your approach. Coming at motherhood from a yoga perspective, yoga is not just flexibility in the body it’s also flexibility in our minds and thoughts. If you choose to do something one way and you end up fighting that path then change and see what else is out there.

Each day our babies grow and we need to grow up with them. My children are bigger now but I still have to make choices to help them mature into their beauty and confidence. We can’t know what the future holds but we can try our best to be present right now.

12/12/12 – this evening my daughter was playing the song “Que será, será” on her ukulele! She wanted to know what it meant so I sang my best Doris Day impression to her which got me thinking about this post…

Yes, whatever will be will be. The future’s not ours, to see…

Que será, será

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here’s what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

When I was young, I fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead
Will we have rainbows, day after day
Here’s what my sweetheart said.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

Now I have children of my own
They ask their mother, what will I be
Will I be handsome, will I be rich
I tell them tenderly.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

Songwriters: Jay Livingston and Ray Evans